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Shonda Draughn is no stranger to making a home. A devoted wife and mother, working woman and philanthropist, not only has Shonda built a home for her and her family, but, as a talented realtor, she also helps others find their home. Living under the moniker, The Triangle’s HOUSEwife, Shonda makes the most of her home, and out of her life in the Raleigh-Durham region of North Carolina.
As a black millennial raising the most adorable family while owning and redefining the word ‘housewife,’ Shonda was the perfect person to feature in the first post of our Spades & Chandeliers “At Home” series.
As a wife and a mom of two, how would you describe the mood of your home?
Energetic. There is honestly never a dull moment in our home. Kamden and London are so full of energy. From 7 a.m. to 8:30 p.m. we are GOING. It can be a bit chaotic at times, but I wouldn’t change it for the world.
Between working as a realtor, being a wife and mom, do you have a space in your home where you go to relax and decompress?
I do! I have what I call my “lady lounge” where I can go to read and pray, maybe have a glass of wine and just relax. No one is really allowed in, although my husband Shaun gets a pass every once in a while if we are reading/doing devotion together.
Has your home inherited any traditions, rules, etc. that have been influenced by your upbringing?
I didn’t have a lot of traditions growing up and honestly neither did my husband, but I always thought it was so cool when other families had things that they did every year. I always say I’m going to start a tradition or two with my family that can be passed on… but I never get around to it. Thanks for reminding me. 🙂
Do you like to host people? If so, what’s your hosting style?
E.g., do you tell people to make themselves right at home and just let them help themselves? Are you on your feet the whole time tending to everyone? Do you break out cute glasses and dinnerware? Do you avoid accidents and a mess and pull out the paper plates and red solo cups?
I LOVE to host. It’s always so nice to have family and friends over and just enjoy their company and eat good food. I would like to say that I tell everyone to just make themselves at home and help themselves but the truth is, even if I do say it, I end up tending to them anyway. Until it’s time to play games. THEN YOU’RE ON YOUR OWN 🙂
Lol, no cute glasses and dinnerware for me – paper plates, plastic utensils and red solo cups for sure!
The column is called Spades & Chandeliers for a couple of reasons:
1) Hosting a game of spades is one of the “blackest” thing (but maybe it’s a southern thing?) I think of when I think about gathering in a black home and, 2) A game of spades is a time of camaraderie, possibly some shit-talking, and just releasing and having fun. I think every home should have a space or activity that allows for this. Hence the next questions.
Which room in your home is the place where the most fun is had? The most sh*t is talked? The center of the most activity?
Our dining room table is the place. We can see the kids playing in the backyard, the kitchen is easily accessible and everyone is able to see me whoopin’ up on ’em.
What is the “blackest” thing/custom/rule in your home OR the thing you feel that most represents your blackness?
Our Cast Iron skillet, my hair roller set, my kids inability to run in and out of the house, and waking up to gospel music on Sunday mornings before church.
Chandeliers represent the opposite of what I think of when I think of a black home. That’s due to a number of things, but I liked this concept of taking something not at all associated with the black home (in my mind) and putting it with something that is associated with it (for me) to show the breadth in the black home experience. Additionally, Chandeliers represent something shiny and something special. Something to be observed and admired, and not necessarily touched. And something that’s the staple or center of a space. Hence the next question.
What item or space in your home stands out as a centerpiece or something special that people can admire, but not necessarily touch?
Our formal dining room for sure. We’ve had it since we moved in and it’s NEVER been used. It’s the first thing you see when you walk into our home, it gets cleaned with the rest of the home but it is seriously never used. I love everything about it and would hate for it to get messed up.
Does your style as it pertains to fashion and your style as it pertains to your home align? Are they different?
I think of myself as pretty ‘plain jane’ when it comes to fashion. The house is not, in my opinion, plain so I would say that it is different.
How did you balance (or did you) the different styles of your significant other?
To be honest, Shaun is the one with the ideas. We have pretty similar style, but he is the one with the vision and he’s able to put things together.
Where do you find design inspiration?
As a realtor, I walk through homes ALL THE TIME. So it’s fun to see what other people are doing, and then bring it home and tweak something to make it fit for me and my family.
What’s your favorite room in your home? Why?
The movie room. It’s normally where Shaun and I spend our evenings after the kids are in bed. We can snuggle and watch TV/movies and even fall asleep in the reclining chairs. It’s also where we have movie nights with the kids, watch the games, and where Shaun can entertain the guys.
Describe your perfect night in. What are you….?
Seeing: The kids and Shaun playing
Hearing: Their infectious laughs
Tasting: A glass of Cab
Smelling: Our newest Bath and Body Works plug-ins
You’re given $50 that has to be spent on home improvements – what are you doing with the money?
A drawer in our kitchen broke this evening (my assumption is one of the children hung on it like they don’t have any sense). It needs to be fixed, so that’s probably what I would do today.
You’re given $500 that has to be spent on home improvements – what are you doing with the money?
We have a guest bedroom that hasn’t been decorated – there is a bed and some closet space but I would definitely use the money to decorate that space.
You’re given $5,000 that has to be spent on home improvements – what are you doing with the money?
New grass in our backyard. I’m not sure what we are doing wrong in the back, lol, but we can’t seem to keep it looking nice back there. I need a do-over with the grass, lol.
Shonda Draughn is a native of Raleigh, NC. When she’s not taking care of her family, keeping people updated on life hacks and family events around Raleigh-Durham, or selling someone their dream home, she is traveling with her husband Shaun.
Contact Shonda for your North Carolina real estate needs at firstname.lastname@example.org
Photography by Jordan Esteem Photography.